to Love or to be Loved
Love is like a box of chocolate, you never know watchu gonna get - ala Forest Gump's statement on life.
That being the scenerio, is it better to Love or to be Loved. A debate started long before our time.
I put this to 5 girlfriends and the result came back 3 to love and 2 to be loved.
I put this to 5 guys and the result came back 3 to love and 2 to be loved.
Most people i text, either replied or called with the same effect "Does the other person love me too?","Whats the scenerio?","It depends","I can't live without one or the other".
I was pretty surpised at some of the answers though. Specially those by the guys, i somehow expected that most guys would answer 'to be loved' and i was so wrong about that. I asked random guys i met over the weekend and majority answered 'to love'.
Some of us discussed it and it does make sense, most men prefer to love than to be loved as it is in their nature, to love....to care and protect, as opposed to, to be loved and hence suffocated? hehe
When a person answers "to be loved", does that make them selfish? I chose "to be loved". Not because i prefer to not love....but because eventually you would love that person and the love will grow. It may not be explosive love, but its still good love. The kind of person that i am, explosive isn't good for me, drives me loco and makes me say and do things i don't mean. I guess i can't handle loving a person so much more than he does me.
Thats why the BEst reply i got has the perfect formula - "To be loved... cause ultimately we all want to find that special someone to love us and thats when we begin to truly love" Vanessa K.
That being the scenerio, is it better to Love or to be Loved. A debate started long before our time.
I put this to 5 girlfriends and the result came back 3 to love and 2 to be loved.
I put this to 5 guys and the result came back 3 to love and 2 to be loved.
Most people i text, either replied or called with the same effect "Does the other person love me too?","Whats the scenerio?","It depends","I can't live without one or the other".
I was pretty surpised at some of the answers though. Specially those by the guys, i somehow expected that most guys would answer 'to be loved' and i was so wrong about that. I asked random guys i met over the weekend and majority answered 'to love'.
Some of us discussed it and it does make sense, most men prefer to love than to be loved as it is in their nature, to love....to care and protect, as opposed to, to be loved and hence suffocated? hehe
When a person answers "to be loved", does that make them selfish? I chose "to be loved". Not because i prefer to not love....but because eventually you would love that person and the love will grow. It may not be explosive love, but its still good love. The kind of person that i am, explosive isn't good for me, drives me loco and makes me say and do things i don't mean. I guess i can't handle loving a person so much more than he does me.
Thats why the BEst reply i got has the perfect formula - "To be loved... cause ultimately we all want to find that special someone to love us and thats when we begin to truly love" Vanessa K.
posted by the frou fr0u one at
12:19 PM
5 Comments:
Venessa's formula says it all!!
i know when u asked me i was indecisive (n eventually decided on 'to love'..but if the prerequisite is that u both alredy love each other but one loves more than the other..well, id rather be loved more!
probably cos women being women, we need more assurance or else we naik gila..hahaha...so to save ourselves we should be loved more~
wat to do- we gotta be more selfish cos we have a higher propensity to be neurotic nutcases anyway!
plus women tend to be happy just settling into wats comfy..if the man loves u so much then ur safe and secure...and u dont mind stayin on rather than start sumthin new all over...
but if a woman loves a man more, highly likely she will suffocate him or sumthin..and men being men, they tend to wonder wat else is better out there..*buggers*!
SO..wats the lesson? if we love the man more, mayb we shouldnt show it? so he wont take us for granted??? hmmm....
come to think bout it, my husband (who is always affectionate anyway) is extra extra extra afectionate when we go out and i m surrounded by my male friends.
keep the boys on their toes lah, girls!
can it be both? lol. i guess a year ago, i'd say 'be loved.' but now, i'd most definitely say 'to love.' i think wanting to be loved is in some ways a person's option to fill his/her own insecurities and be complete. being loved is wonderful, but to love someone is an inexplicable release. don't think any of this is making too much sense, but guess you could see where im at now as compared to the playful 14 yr old huh? i love him, i learned to let go and im learning how to live life, hoping things will work out later on. :)
i like ana's one liner hahah
and butta's long way an advice
and N. is growing up pretty nice...
i have loved and i have been loved....and i conclude...like butta said....in a relationship where both people love...i rather be loved more than to love more...
and yes...neurotic i am!
to love, definately.
keng
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